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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in San Diego, CA.

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What does porn addiction look like?

Over the years, we've talked about how pornography has impacted our marriage. Many of you have shared your stories with us too. Pornography addiction is serious, and it can be incredibly hard to overcome. In this week's article, we share some signs and symptoms of porn addiction—and several resources to help you move forward together. Love you guys, Tony & Alisa New Article Pornography is rampant in our society. It’s easily accessible. And it’s easily hidden. Porn addiction can silently...

about 23 hours ago • 4 min read

We love reading marriage books. 📖 It's a great way to increase your knowledge, learn new skills, and improve your relationship. (Bonus points if you read the book together as a couple!) The ONE Family loves marriage books too. And you all were kind enough to share your top recommendations with us. Check out today's article for 13 marriage books recommendations from the ONE Family! Love you guys, Tony & Alisa This Week's Article With so many incredible marriage books on the market, it can be...

8 days ago • 4 min read

Has your marriage ever felt... boring? It's natural to feel bored if you're doing the same things day after day. But it's not healthy to stay in that place forever. Extraordinary couples take action! Check out today's article for 15 ideas to help you shake up your marriage routine and beat boredom. Love you guys, Tony & Alisa P.S. We're testing a new ad feature in our emails that you may see from time to time. This Week's Article No one ever thinks their relationship will grow stale, but...

15 days ago • 3 min read
3 GREAT REASONS YOU SHOULD PRAY WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Listen, we know that spiritual intimacy doesn't sound sexy. It's usually one of the last pillars people think of when it comes to marriage and intimacy... But here's something else we know: As you grow old together, some sexual aspects of your relationship will dwindle. Medications, treatments, and supplements can only do so much. And when libido fades, hands folded together in prayer will take over. If your Spiritual Intimacy Pillar isn't where you want it to be, give today's article a quick...

22 days ago • 4 min read

Different sexual desires can be challenging for couples. There's all kinds of terms you can use: High desire / Low desire High sex drive / Low sex drive High libido / Low libido A term you might not have heard before is "responsive desire." Understanding responsive desire versus spontaneous desire may help you navigate your sexual differences with more confidence. Check out this week's article as we bust some myths about responsive desire and what it means for your marriage. Love you guys,...

29 days ago • 4 min read

Jealousy can creep up quietly in a marriage. Until one day, you've memorized exactly how your wife's purse or your husband's briefcase is put together... So you can put it back exactly how they left it before you went all "private investigator" on it. 🔍 Jealousy is an issue that can arise at any point in marriage. If it's not dealt with, it will weaken the foundation of your connection until there's a wall between you and your spouse. In today's article, we're sharing the top 3 reasons...

about 1 month ago • 4 min read

It's Leap Day. Are you doing anything special to connect with your spouse on this extra day? If you want to get something productive done today, we have the perfect idea. Today's article is a quick "Bedroom Spring Cleaning Checklist" so that you can upgrade your bedroom for more passion and intimacy. 🧹✨💗 These 7 simple ideas can change the atmosphere of your bedroom and, in turn, your sexual intimacy. Give it a try! Love you guys, Tony & Alisa This Week's Article Your bedroom gets a lot of...

about 1 month ago • 4 min read
HOW TO AVOID RESENTMENT WHEN ONE SPOUSE RETIRES first

Ahh retirement bliss... Whether it's on the near horizon for you or feels forever away, there's an important aspect of retirement you might need to prepare for: What happens if one of you retires before the other? Just like any major life transition, there's the possibility for frustration and resentment if you aren't properly prepared for what's to come. In this week's article, you'll find solutions whether it's you or your spouse who's retiring early. It's never too early to have these...

about 2 months ago • 6 min read

What if we told you there was a way to lower stress, improve your mood, sleep better, AND feel more happy in your marriage? Thanks to researchers, there's a clear answer: Spend time with your spouse, having fun together. It seems so simple, yet how many times do you make an excuse to not go on a date with your spouse? The babysitter is expensive... We have food at home... I'm tired, let's just watch a show... The truth is that couples who spend time together regularly are happier and less...

about 2 months ago • 3 min read

Have you ever felt a bit disconnected from your spouse but didn't know what to say to bridge the gap? In this week's article, you'll find 28 romantic conversation prompts to help get the conversation flowing! The prompts range from simple to sexy, depending on your mood. Pick out a few prompts to keep in the back of your mind! This is a fun way to boost emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, and more. Not only are these prompts perfect as you approach Valentine's Day, but you can ask them all...

2 months ago • 3 min read
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